YOLO (you only live once) has become my PNH motto
A phrase from my high school days has boosted me since my diagnosis
When I was diagnosed with paroxysmal nocturnal hemoglobinuria (PNH), I felt shock and disbelief. I was fully convinced that I’d had a false positive and that, in my heart, the diagnosis couldn’t be true. I remember doing a quick Google search and seeing a Cleveland Clinic statement that “[PNH] affects men and women between the ages of 30 and 40.”
I was only 24 at the time, so I thought, “Phew! This must not be true, and a second opinion from another doctor will clear it all up and I can move on with my life.”
After my diagnosis, I reached out to my two bosses to let them know. Since they’d been accommodating while I was in the hospital recovering from a bone marrow biopsy, I wanted to keep them in the loop. My main boss called me immediately and said he too found the statement about the normal ages for PNH and thus agreed that I was too young to have it.
As I reflect on my overall PNH experience, though, I’m happy I was diagnosed in young adulthood. If I’d been younger, I think I might not have been so mature in handling the news and taking care of my body; in the years I was experiencing symptoms before diagnosis, in fact, my bright idea was to ignore them. But I’m mainly happy about when I was diagnosed because it guided my mindset as I proceeded with a new lifestyle. Life is a blessing, and I do my best not to take my time here for granted. But at 24, I knew I had a lot of years ahead of me and that I couldn’t just roll over and give up.
In praise of YOLO
When I graduated high school in 2012, my classmates and I had a popular acronym: YOLO, or you only live once. This saying encouraged us to live life to the fullest because we wouldn’t have another opportunity. My grandma took a liking to this idea when she heard our class valedictorian quote it at my graduation. Grandma now quotes it as a response to any important life questions we ask, or even our not-so-important questions, such as whether we should get McDonald’s for dinner.
When I got my diagnosis, I really needed to embrace YOLO as my new life motto.
From childhood, I knew my basic life goals in the areas of marriage, children, homeownership, traveling, and more. I’d accomplished none of them when I heard the words “rare blood disorder.” My mental health wasn’t the strongest at the time, but it slowly got stronger when I’d chant “YOLO” in my head every day.
When I was positioned at forks in the road while making decisions, my first response was YOLO. For example, when I was asked if I’d attend a family function that I’d been looking forward to, where I’d see family members I missed, these were my thoughts:
Option 1: Stay home, feel guilty for disappointing people excited to see me and upset that I missed a fun time.
Option 2: Go and engage with as much as I can and excuse myself if I’m not feeling well.
Solution: YOLO and go with Option 2.
I’ve written here that I feel I’m slowing down as I’m getting older and more tired, which seems to be a pattern among everyone who’s aging, even if they don’t have PNH. If I’d received my diagnosis at a later age, would I have let my fatigue hold me back from embracing a YOLO mindset? Would I handle the news the same? Would I give up more easily and let this disease control more of my life?
I don’t think I would’ve bounced back as quickly if I’d been diagnosed now, at age 30 — the minimum of the age range cited by the Cleveland Clinic. I still have many years ahead of me, but I’m not sure I’d have the young spunky invincible energy that I had at 24. I would’ve found ways to make it work, but in a different way. I’m satisfied with how it played out.
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